14 stuffs you must avoid doing if you don’t
want pang of guilt in your old age
When younger we make
various choices without the future in mind. Sometimes those choices bite us in
our mid-life. These are some of the things one might regret when they’re older.
1. Marrying the wrong person
When you’re young, check your motives for marrying. Don’t
marry to copy your peers, or for social standing or out of pressure. Marry for love
and companionship, marry the right person, marry your best friend. For if you
marry the wrong person or for the wrong reasons, you will have to put up with
that person the rest of your life. Things might get worse between you two; then
depression, physical abuse, affairs, pain, shame, court cases, bitterness will
define your mid-life years all because you chose the wrong one. Things will get
worse when children are involved. Make the right choice of a spouse when you
are young.
2. The opportunities you did not seize
When you are younger many doors will open, you will get many
chances. Many young people let these opportunities go because of fear,
laziness, or pride; yet well younger and with more energy is the best time to
start a venture and a name for yourself. Some think the opportunities are too
big for them. Take advantage of them or one day when you’re older you will want
to go back and grab those missed chances.
3. The bridges you burned
When we are younger, we care little for relationships, what
most think about is getting money and moving up the ladder of success at all
cost. Many use and trample on people to progress, they take relationships for
granted, messing up bonds, sleeping with people for personal gain. But these
bad actions will catch up with you ahead. When you will realize how empty life
is without love and friends. When you will have success but no one around you
or no one to trust you.
4. The child you aborted
You are a young lady, you get pregnant and you are scared.
You take the aborting option quickly thinking of that moment then. But when you
are much older, you will look back and wish you kept that baby. When you will
be rich and successful you will wish that child you gave up on would be around
to enjoy the fruits of your hard work. Being a single mother doesn’t mean you
can’t make it in life or you can’t find a man in future.
5. The child you rejected
Young man, you impregnated a woman, she told you she’s
pregnant with your child. You rejected her and the baby and ran. But years
later when you’re 50 something, you will wish you were responsible, you will
wish you manned up and became a father to that child. You will see that child
excel and become an aduItbut will have no claim to that grown child who you
rejected from the beginning. You will regret being a Dead Beat Dad by choice
6. The marriage you destroyed
So you get married to your good fiance; the first months in
marriage were good but shortly after, with your money and charm, you started
having affairs. You became unfaithful. Your spouse begged you to stop, your
children started hurting, your marriage was collapsing. One day when you are
older, it will hit you how foolish you were to destroy the good marriage you
had began to build for mere temporary thrills in affairs that did you no good.
You will realize the damage you caused to your children and spouse.
7. The God you disowned
When you are much older you become wiser, God becomes more
real as you see life in a more meaningful way. But don’t wait to get older to
start enjoying a relationship with God. Know God when you are young, build your
future with God. Don’t be a young rebel who runs back to God when age catches
up.
8. The body you messed
You have only one body to live with all your life. The
cigarettes, the alcohol you are abusing, the drugs you are taking, the
unhealthy food you’re consuming; all that will destroy you slowly. When you are
50 and lifestyle diseases catch up with you, you will wish you took care of
your body when younger, that you exercised more; but now the damage is done.
9. The time you wasted
The time you are wasting when younger in worry, wrong
relationships, laziness, being a couch potato, giving excuses and pursuing
meaningless things; you will never get it back.
10. The dreams and talents you shelved
Are you talented when young; are there things you love to do
and you are good at them? Nurture those talents, exploit them, don’t give up
even if you encounter set backs, don’t give up on your dreams. If you give up,
when you’re older you will look at your peers who stuck to what they love and
made it and think to self, “That could have been me”. Pursue a career, study a
course you love. Don’t waste years of your life in a field that doesn’t fulfill
you.
11. The name you defamed
When you are older, a legacy is very important, the value of
your name is crucial. You will ask yourself what is your reputation, what are
you leaving behind? Your legacy is a sum total of your actions since youthful
days. We write our biography by how we live life everyday. When you look back
your path and you see the mud you threw at your own name, the shame you
attracted and the little value you have added to the world; you will regret.
12. The wealth you threw away
Are you riding on good money during your productive years?
Earning good money? Don’t throw away that money in clubs, reckless living and
wasteful shopping. Invest with that money, widen your revenue stream, make that
money work for you and keep it safe to take care of you in your older years.
Leave an inheritance for your loved ones so that you will never say “I wish I
knew better”
13. The good love that got away
Is there that great person in your life loving you good?
Don’t push that person away, or else that person will walk out your life and
you will never ever find someone that incredible and who connects with you all
your life. It will torment you to grow older with thoughts of “What if I was
still with that person?”
14 The parents you despised
When younger, it is easy to show contempt to your parents;
what do your parent’s know? They are old-fashioned, shady and small -minded.
But your parents are still your parents whether you agree with them or not,
whatever their style. Don’t let your parent die or age separated from you,
reconcile and make up. When you get older, you will realize why your parents
wanted to be close to you. The older you get, the more you see the value
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