If the guy you love has these traits, do
not leave him, I repeat, DON’T!
Qualities to look out for in love
So, I heard you would like to know the
kind of traits a guy should possess for you to take him serious. I heard you
are trying your possible best to keep this one, but you are unclear, having
mixed feelings and thinking if he really is your “one true love”.
Do you have a list of the qualities and
characteristics you’d to find like in a man? Many women (and men) do.
However, most lists of this kind are
based on personal dating preferences, so they don’t necessarily take into
account the specific personality traits that really matter when it in comes to
determining whether or not a guy has what it takes to form happy, healthy bonds
as a boyfriend or husband.
These are the types of traits that
predict a man’s ability to truly make (and keep) you happy - not in that
honeymoon, giddy sort of way, but in an ever-deepening, soul-enriching,
ever-grateful kind of way!
If the man you’re dating or falling in
love with has these 4 dominant personality traits, hold on tight, because men
like this make the best boyfriends and husbands.
4. Respectfulness
This one is a bit personal, because you
may highly respect someone for particular reasons. But do not pass go without a
clear feeling of mutual respect between you and the man you love. In other
words, you must respect him and you must feel respected by him.
Relationships without mutual respect
turn bitter, resentful and unhappy — that is, if they don’t end, which they
likely will.
If your boyfriend or husband exhibits
respect for you and for other people in his life, he should be racking up “keep
him points.” Pay close attention to the way he talks about his mom, his boss,
and his friends.
Keep in mind that real respect isn’t
just liking or agreeing with someone or giving them what they want. Real
respect remains intact even when someone disagrees with you, e.g., if his boss
makes him skip vacation but he knows his boss has good reason and good
principles, he’ll likely respect him for it.
Granted, not everyone in his life
deserves your respect, but if he doesn’t respect a good amount of people,
there’s a problem here. Sturdy, respectable people take the responsibility to
surround themselves with respectable people and to nourish those relationships.
And, strong people can find something to respect in most, if not all, people.
Bonus: This one acts a strong indicator
of whether or not a man is emotionally manipulative. If he demonstrates this
trait on a consistent basis, you have good reason to trust him and invest in
the relationship. If he seems “great” but is lacking here, beware of a
potential manipulator!
3. Good-natured
This is the kind of person you want
around when it’s time to relax and have fun, as well as when things feel
challenging.
Good-natured people handle challenges
well and accentuate the highlights of life. This is important, because when you
think about spending the long haul with a guy, it’s the ability to enjoy the
little moments that makes for the most gratifying life possible.
Good natured people aren’t petty, they
have a good sense of humor, and they respond to challenges by taking
responsibility and looking for ways to grow. They don’t place much value on
either pity or self-pity, they don’t put others down, and they always look to
make the best they can of difficult situations.
2. Honesty
Obviously! But this is
priority number one. Do not pass go without honesty, the simple ability to tell
the truth, and an internal prohibition against lying.
An internal
prohibition against lying is different than simply knowing when to follow the
rules.
Toddlers need to have
an external prohibition against lying in order to keep them from getting into
trouble. If we mature properly, we internalize this as a moral compass.
Honesty is a compass
that guides a healthy relationship, so prize it accordingly!
1. Integrity
Integrity includes,
but is not limited to, honesty. Honesty is the ability to tell the truth, but
integrity is the ability to live by your truth.
The reason this is as
important as honesty, is that it indicates a congruence and stability within
the personality that cues many, many other rewards over time.
People who live with
integrity are dependable, reliable, and just. They have principles they will
stand by, so you always know where they stand.
A person with
integrity also values themselves, so will possess a healthy (not narcissistic)
confidence, and instill confidence in you, as well. This eliminates a lot of
guess work in relationships, and leads directly to the next non-negotiable …
Of course, there are
many more qualities and personality traits that are important to look for in a
man.
Some are and should be
personal to you, your value system, and your life path.
However, these four
specific traits are integral to the ability to create a healthy, secure,
vibrant partnership that you will still enjoy decades down the road. They are
the foundation of healthy potential.
So, if you can say
yes, your guy possesses these four personality traits, think thrice before
letting him go!
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